I saw a post by a page called “Women’s Rights News”, a massive group with millions of members.

The post was your typical, bashing the MRA kind of post, the comments were very similar. But one comment I saw was brilliant response, and I just had to save and share it.

How has feminism improved the lives of men?
What history is that?

Not one significant injustice men experience in today’s world is addressed by feminism, but you claim feminism promotes equal opportunities and rights for both genders. MRA’s are just getting support, we don’t have 70 million supporters like feminism nor are we seated on the board of the United Nations, we do not have the same influence in the media nor a fraction of the resources that feminism has, MRA’s help in the small ways that we can afford to right now, they help individual men who are in custody battles, they finance men who are fighting false rape allegations etc. and they help by making persons more aware of how feminism negatively affects men and masculinity in society.

“My 13-year old daughter walks in the door and drops an F-bomb about the weather. Parenting win: I chastise her choice of language without mentioning gender.”

My young boy hits a girl: “Boys should never hit a girls!”
Is that chastising without mentioning gender?

“men who are on the MRA fence are less likely to listen to a woman’s views on the subject”

Rubbish, most MRA websites, facebook pages,youtube channels etc are run by women who support and acknowledges the injustice and the blatant disregard men receive from the largest “human” rights organisation with over 70 million members which is feminism.
“Male allies can pull them back from the brink.”

No mangina, can speak to me. Any man who is comfortable speaking out against catcalling, manspreading, against men standing up to urinate, but can’t find the time to stand up for ONE issue relating to males, can eat my ass.

Not parental rights
Not education
Not incarceration
Not Occupational deaths
Not Homicide or Suicide rates
NOt chronic homelessness etc.

“their misogyny and threats of violence toward women”

HA have you seen the #KillAllMen movement, have you seen feminists t-shirts and mugs about drinking male tears. And you want to speak about the hate promoted by the MRA, MRA’s make angry comments just like anyone else.


“if they were actually serious about solving any of the problems that they profess to rally around, why would they choose to alienate half the population”

First of all how can men rally around a movement that believes that men are already privileged and need no help! How can an organisation like that support the issues men are looking to resolve, dumbest thing i’ve ever heard.

Secondly we don’t choose to alienate half of the population, We choose to alienate FEMINISTS!, feminists do not represent half of the population!.


“The feminists I know love men. They don’t want them to be injured on the job, get assaulted, restricted from seeing their children, be homeless or die young. “
But what are they doing to prevent these things from happening?
and for your information men lost their parental rights because or Feminist Caroline Norton. And more men are being lead into high risk jobs because of feminism pushing the more qualified men out of the white collar jobs to help corporations meet gender requirements, because women don’t want equality to work in sanitation, electrical installations, fisheries etc.…/Protesters-Ask-Scott-to-Veto……/two-dozen-women-urge…

Feminism don’t give a shit about men or boys. And no I don’t care about your dictionary definition of feminism. The definition of the Ku Klux Klan was : An organisation dedicated to peace-keeping through self defence, and gained wide support due to this definition. yeah, they turned out great.…/2/2182950/kkk_info.pdf”

So well put, so succinct and just so true.


Why am I not a Feminist?

I think this is probably the best answer anyone give to the question, “Why are you not a Feminist?” 

First of all, this is what I see when I hear the word feminist, this is what the movement looks like to an outsider…











Sure, these are probably what you’d call “misandrists” just giving a bad name to feminism. You’re right, I’m willing to look past all that and actually look at what feminism is really about, at a more intellectual and institutional level.

Here are some quotes by some prominent feminists:

  • “I feel that ‘man-hating’ is an honorable and viable political act, that the oppressed have a right to class-hatred against the class that is oppressing them.” — Robin Morgan, Ms. Magazine Editor.
  • “I claim that rape exists any time sexual intercourse occurs when it has not been initiated by the woman, out of her own genuine affection and desire.” — Robin Morgan
  • “To call a man an animal is to flatter him; he’s a machine, a walking dildo.” — Valerie Solanas, Authoress of the SCUM Manifesto
  • “The male is a domestic animal which, if treated with firmness…can be trained to do most things.” — Jilly Cooper, SCUM
  • “I want to see a man beaten to a bloody pulp with a high-heel shoved in his mouth, like an apple in the mouth of a pig.” — Andrea Dworkin
  • “Q: People think you are very hostile to men. A: I am.” — Andrea Dworkin
  • “Men who are unjustly accused of rape can sometimes gain from the experience.” – Catherine Comins
  • “All men are rapists and that’s all they are” — Marilyn French, Authoress
  • “The annihilation of a woman’s personality, individuality, will, character, is prerequisite to male sexuality.” — Andrea Dworkin
  • “Men love death. In everything they make, they hollow out a central place for death, let its rancid smell contaminate every dimension of whatever still survives. Men especially love murder. In art they celebrate it, and in life they commit it. They embrace murder as if life without it would be devoid of passion, meaning, and action, as if murder were solace, stilling their sobs as they mourn the emptiness and alienation of their lives.” — Andrea Dworkin
  • “Men are rapists, batterers, plunderers, killers; these same men are religious prophets, poets, heroes, figures of romance, adventure, accomplishment, figures ennobled by tragedy and defeat. Men have claimed the earth, called it ‘Her’. Men ruin Her. Men have airplanes, guns, bombs, poisonous gases, weapons so perverse and deadly that they defy any authentically human imagination.” — Andrea Dworkin, Pornography: Men Possessing Women
  • “On the Left, on the Right, in the Middle; Authors, statesmen, thieves; so-called humanists and self-declared fascists; the adventurous and the contemplative, in every realm of male expression and action, violence is experienced and articulated as love and freedom.” — Andrea Dworkin, Pornography: Men Possessing Women.
  • “The institution of sexual intercourse is anti-feminist — Ti-Grace Atkinson
  • ”Feminism is the theory, lesbianism is the practice.” — Ti-Grace Atkinson
  • “Rape is nothing more or less than a conscious process of intimidation by which all men keep all women in a state of fear” — Susan Brownmiller; Authoress of Against Our Will p.6
  • “When a woman reaches orgasm with a man she is only collaborating with the patriarchal system, eroticizing her own oppression.” — Sheila Jeffrys
  • “Politically, I call it rape whenever a woman has sex and feels violated.”— Catherine MacKinnon
  • “All sex, even consensual sex between a married couple, is an act of violence perpetrated against a woman.” — Catherine MacKinnon
  • “You grow up with your father holding you down and covering your mouth so another man can make a horrible searing pain between your legs.” — Catherine MacKinnon (Prominent legal feminist scholar; University of Michigan, & Yale.)

I guess you ladies on tumblr should probably address that as “problematic” or at least acknowledge the people that walk among you. But whatever. Those are just a few dumbasses and I should probably be looking more at feminism as a whole, collective ideology.

What’s usually one of the first things feminists list as a reason for why they need feminism or why they’re feminists? That women are still  making 77¢ for every $1 that men do. Hard to believe that in 2014 we’re still dealing with this problem, right?

We’re not.

In 1963, President Kennedy signed the Equal Pay Act, which stated the following:

I AM delighted today to approve the Equal Pay Act of 1963, which prohibits arbitrary discrimination against women in the payment of wages. This act represents many years of effort by labor, management, and several private organizations unassociated with labor or management, to call attention to the unconscionable practice of paying female employees less wages than male employees for the same job. This measure adds to our laws another structure basic to democracy. It will add protection at the working place to the women, the same rights at the working place in a sense that they have enjoyed at the polling place.

This Act granted working women the same rights as that of the working man, thereby enjoying the right to equal pay.

Next year, Congress passed Title VII of the Civil Rights Act of 1964 in which Section 703(a) defines the following employer practices as unlawful:

(1) to fail or refuse to hire or to discharge any individual, or otherwise to discriminate against any individual with respect to his compensation, terms, conditions, or privileges of employment, because of such individual’s race, color, religion, sex, or national origin; or

(2) to limit, segregate, or classify his employees or applicants for employment in any way which would deprive or tend to deprive any individual of employment opportunities or otherwise adversely affect his status as an employee, because of such individual’s race, color, religion, sex, or national origin.

Essentially banning discrimination of wages based on sex.

Here is a comprehensive look at the wage gap issue, prepared for the government specifically, 95 pages.

Here are some by women

US Department of Labor

The Gender Pay Gap is a Complete Myth

Gender pay gap is not what activists claim

Equal pay statistics are bogus because they don’t compare like with like

Fair Pay Isn’t Always Equal Pay

The Wage Gap Myth

Don’t Blame Discrimination for Gender Wage Gap

The pay inequality myth: Women are more equal than you think

Women Now a Majority in American Workplaces

Labor force participation rate for men has never been lower.

Share of Men in Labor Force at All-Time Low

Women In Tech Make More Money And Land Better Jobs Than Men

Female U.S. corporate directors out-earn men: study

Female CEOs outearned men in 2009.

Women between ages 21 and 30 working full-time made 117% of men’s wages.

According to the U.S. Census Bureau, single women between 22 and 30 years old earn an average of $27,000 a year. That’s 8% more than comparable men.

Workplace Salaries: At Last, Women on Top,8599,2015274,00.html

Young Women’s Pay Exceeds Male Peers

The 15 Jobs Where Women Earn More Than Men

women aged between 22 and 29 earn over £10 per hour on average, compared to men their same age who earn just under this amount.—news-800761492

Young women now earn more than men in UK

The only chairwoman in the FTSE 100 index of biggest British companies, when asked about government efforts to force companies to make at least 25% of board member to be female said: “there’s no real evidence to suggest women being on a board makes the companies any better – what we’re doing here is forcing an experiment.”

This was further supported in the book “Why Men Earn More” by Warren Farrell, Ph.D., examined 25 career/life choices men and women make (hours, commute times, etc.) that lead to men earning more and women having more balanced lives, and that showed how men in surveys prioritize money while women prioritize flexibility, shorter hours, shorter commutes, less physical risk and other factors conducive to their choice to be primary parents, an option men still largely don’t have. That is why never-married childless women outearn their male counterparts, and female corporate directors now outearn their male counterparts.…

Farrell also lists dozens of careers, including fields of science, where women outearn men. Women simply have more options than men to be primary parents, and many of them exercise that option rather than work long, stressful hours. That is why 57% of female graduates of Stanford and Harvard left the workforce within 15 years of entry into the workforce.

This is an option few men have (try being a single male and telling women on the first date that you want to stay home).

Blaming men for women’s choices is unfair. In fact research shows most men have no problem with their wives outearning them.

Research also shows most working dads would quit or take a pay cut to spend more time with kids if their spouses could support the family.

Research also shows that parents share workloads more when mothers allow men to be primary parents.

ABC News: “Is the Wage Gap Women’s Choice? Research Suggests Career Decisions, Not Sex Bias, Are at Root of Pay Disparity”

There is also the myth that women are kept out of certain more lucrative fields by sexism. The truth is that women stay away from math out of their own free choice

Women In Science: No Discrimination, Says Cornell Study

Let’s be real about the lack of women in tech

Here are some by women

US Department of Labor

Okay, so that’s not really as big of an issue as feminists claimed it was. However, I absolutely agree that if you do find out that you are being discriminated in the workplace due to your gender, you can and should take action to end that.

So what else is a big issue in feminism? Rape culture. Rape is a serious problem, make no mistake. But is this “rape culture” hysteria the answer? Do we honestly live in a culture in which prevalent attitudes and practices normalize, excuse, tolerate, and even condone rape? It’s difficult to quite agree with that idea. While rape unfortunately does happen, it is still seen as one of the top criminal offenses in our country (at least in the US). It’s actually treated like a really serious issue, probably more than any other crime. Compared to joking about rape, how often do we hear people joking about murder? Far more. In fact there’s a big popular post right here on tumblr with details on how to commit murder and get away with it. Does that mean that people seeing those kinds of twisted and sarcastic things are suddenly more inclined to commit murder? I’d hope not. Are those kind of jokes creating a murder culture? Not really.

But maybe because 1 in 4 (or 1 in 5 or 1 in 6, it changes every time I come on tumblr) women will be raped or sexually assaulted in her lifetime. That’s a pretty damn high number. And that’s because it isn’t accurate.



IF the one-in-four statistic is correct—it is sometimes modified to “one-in-five to one-in-four”—campus rape represents a crime wave of unprecedented proportionsNo crime, much less one as serious as rape, has a victimization rate remotely approaching 20 or 25 percent, even over many years. The 2006 violent crime rate in Detroit, one of the most violent cities in America, was 2,400 murders, rapes, robberies, and aggravated assaults per 100,000 inhabitants—a rate of 2.4 percent. The one-in-four statistic would mean that every year, millions of young women graduate who have suffered the most terrifying assault, short of murder, that a woman can experience. Such a crime wave would require nothing less than a state of emergency—Take Back the Night rallies and 24-hour hotlines would hardly be adequate to counter this tsunami of sexual violence. Admissions policies letting in tens of thousands of vicious criminals would require a complete revision, perhaps banning boys entirely.”

— Heather Mac Donald, “The Campus Rape Myth”.

This alleged “statistic” was culled from a survey of 3,000 college women in 1982, conducted by Ms. Magazine.  These women were asked only three questions:

  1. Have you had sexual intercourse when you didn’t want to because a man gave you alcohol or drugs?
  2. Have you had sexual intercourse when you didn’t want to because a man threatened or used some degree of physical force to make you?
  3. Have you had sexual acts when you didn’t want to because a man threatened to use some degree of physical force to make you?

The trouble is, many of the women the survey counted as “victims” did not actually feel that they had been raped, especially not the entire third of the alleged “victims” that continued to have a consensual sexual relationship with their supposed attacker.  Others that had consensual one-night-stands that they later regretted were also counted as “victims”.

When you have to lie about the prevalence of a crime, you’re not doing women any favors.

Feminism is supposed to be empowering, not to send us cowering.

Rape is not the “epidemic” that people are trying to claim it is.  It has actually decreased dramatically in the past few decades – up to 80% since 1979despite an increase in the willingness of victims to report them.  This is even further supported by data directly from the U.S. Bureau of Justice.

The only thing that HAS been increasing are FALSE reports of rape, which do a lot more harm to the lives of others than you may want to believe.

Here’s what RAINN (Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network), one of the most trusted sources of sexual violence information and resources in the nation, has had to say about the idea of “rape culture”


Third wave feminism is operating under far too many logical fallacies.  The Big Lie Technique is readily apparent in the use of the very “statistic” above which has time and again been proven to be false.  Overgeneralization continually tries to paint all men as monsters, when science has shown us that there are many psychological and biological factors that come into play to create someone with the potential to commit violence.

Oh yeah, moving on to the violence stuff that feminism likes to talk about.

Just saw this on my Facebook feed and I’m really quite upset. What is this collective mentality accomplishing? What are you trying to prove? That men are all bad? Honestly, I want someone to tell me what spreading this idea is accomplishing.

Remember the whole Elliot Rodger incident? Feminists used that tragedy to highlight the supposed rampant misogyny in society.

The crimes that have been committed by sick individuals like Elliot Rodger are horrible, no one is arguing about that. But is it really good to use those isolated incidences to further your own agenda? If so, then these other incidences would also make it clear that there is a huge problem of female perpetrated violence and misandry in society as well:







Comedian Phil Hartman was murdered by his wife on May 27th 1998


NFL player Steve McNair was murdered by his girlfriend on July 4th, 2009


John Wayne Bobbitt had his penis cut completely off on June 23rd, 1993


Travis Alexander was murdered by Jodi Arias on June 4th, 2008


Andrew Bagby was murdered by Shirley Jane Turner on November 6th, 2001 (She later murdered their 1 year-old son on August 18th, 2003)



Brenda Spencer killed two and injured nine at Cleveland Elementary School on January 29th, 1979


Laurie Dann killed one boy and injured five others at Hubbard Woods Elementary School on May 20th, 1988


Jennifer San Marco killed eight people at Goleta postal facility on January 30th, 2006


Sylvia Seegrist killed three and injured seven during a shooting spree at a Springfield mall on October 30th, 1985


Mary Ann Holder killed five children including her own son in Pleasent Gardens, NC on November 20th, 2011


Jullian Robbins killed one and injured two at Penn State on September 17th, 1997


Heather Smith killed two then committed suicide at Spanaway Junior High School on November 26th, 1985


Latina Williams killed two others then self at Louisiana Technical College on February 8th, 2008


Amy Bishop Anderson killed three and wounded three others at the University of Alabama on February 12th, 2010


Wow, almost like violence is not so much a gendered issue and is more of a human issue,. Maybe instead of using tragedies to push an agenda and demonize an entire gender, we should focus on the real problem of violence as a whole.

Feminists also like to talk about how girls are less confident than boys and suffer from lower self-esteem. That’s totally not cool and I agree that we should be doing something about that. But not like this




Really ladies, are you all still in middle school? Why do you have to bring others down just to feel tall? Why can’t we build each other up as equals instead of tearing each other down?

And then you want to go and Ban Bossy™ because that’s gonna solve your problems? What even is the real issue again? Let’s list it out the way feminists did (this was originally in an infographic)




This isn’t actually true.

Girl Scouts own website on Education:

  • Female kindergarteners (83%) are somewhat more likely than their male counterparts (79%) to exhibit the following positive social behaviors: ease in joining others in play; ability to make and keep friends; and positively interacting with peers.(, Child and Youth Indicators Databank: Kindergartners’ Social Interaction Skills, 2006)
  • In 2005, female fourth- and eighth-graders both scored higher on average in reading than their male counterparts. (National Center for Education Statistics, The Nation’s Report Card: Reading 2005)
  • A slightly higher percentage of females than males completed high school in 2005 (87% compared with 85%, respectively). In 2005, females were also more likely than males to have completed some college (62% compared with 52%, respectively) and to have received at least a bachelor’s degree (32% compared with 26%, respectively). (, Child and Youth Indicators Databank: Educational Attainment, 2006)
  • In 2004, 9% of females ages 16 to 24 were high school dropouts, compared with 12% of males. Females comprise one-half of the population and make up 43% of the dropouts in this age group. (,Child and Youth Indicators Databank: High School Dropout Rates, 2006)
  • In 2000, sex differences occurred in science course taking but not in mathematics. More females than males completed courses in advanced biology, Advanced Placement (AP) or International Baccalaureate (IB) biology, and chemistry. Males completed physics and AP/IB physics courses at higher rates than females. (National Science Foundation, Science and Engineering Indicators, 2006)
  • In 2000, women earned more than half of the degrees awarded in psychology (78%), biological/agricultural sciences (59%), and social sciences (55%), and almost half (47%) in mathematics.However, women received 21% of bachelors degrees awarded in engineering, 27% in computer sciences, and 43% in physical sciences. (National Science Foundation, Science and Engineering Indicators 2006)
  • For girls ages 8-12, aspirations after high school are largely educational and professional: 93% for college education; 76% for a career; 67% for marriage; and, 63% for children. (The Girl Scout Research Institute,Teens Before Their Time (2000))

On Civic Engagement and Volunteering:

  • For girls ages 11-12, 73% reported improving the world around them as their favorite activity (i.e., activities related to the environment or helping others). (The Girl Scout Research Institute, The Ten Emerging Truths: New Directions for Girls 11-17 (2002))
  • Girls ages 11-17 participate in student government at markedly increasing levels: 5% of girls ages 11-13; 12% of girls ages 13-15; and 20% of girls ages 16-17. (The Girl Scout Research Institute, The Ten Emerging Truths: New Directions for Girls 11-17 (2002))
  • More young women aged 15 to 25 participate in the following activities than young men: raising money for charity (27% for women vs. 22% for men); regular volunteering for non-political groups (21% vs. 16%); active group membership (22% vs. 18%); membership in political groups (17% vs. 15%); and, participating in a run/walk/ride for charity (20% vs. 15%). (Center for Information and Research on Civic Learning and Engagement, The Civic and Political Health of a Nation, 2006)
  • In the 2004 election, 55% of females ages 18-24 reported registering to vote, compared with 48% of males the same age. Similarly, 45% of females reported actually voting, compared with 39% of males. (, Child and Youth Indicators Databank: Youth Voting, 2006)
  • From 1990 to 2000, consistent young volunteers were more likely to be female (14 percent) than male (11 percent). They were also more likely to be from higher SES households. (National Center for Education Statistics, Volunteer Service by Young People from High School through Early Adulthood, 2003)
  • From 1990 to 2000, females (50%) were more likely than males (38%) to volunteer in high school, but no differences were detected between the sexes two years out of high school (38% for males and 39% for females). Male volunteering declined further to 29% by the eighth year after scheduled high school graduation; no change was detected in female volunteering (37%). (National Center for Education Statistics, Volunteer Service by Young People from High School through Early Adulthood, 2003)
  • As of 2003, female college graduates were more likely than their male counterparts to have volunteered in the past year (50% vs. 43%). Among those who had volunteered, women were more likely than men to have served in educational or religious institutions, while men were more likely than women to have done other volunteer work with children or to have participated in poverty or neighborhood improvement projects. (National Center for Education Statistics, Where Are They Now? A Description of 1992–93 Bachelor’s Degree Recipients 10 Years Later, 2006)
  • College students follow the national trend in volunteering, with females (33%) volunteering at a higher rate than males (26.8%).Both male and female college students were more likely to volunteer for an educational or youth services organization than any other type of organization: 33.6% of male college students, and 30.2% of female college students volunteered at an educational or youth services organization. With a little over 22% of both male and female college students, religious organizations remained the second most popular place for volunteering among both genders. (Corporation for National and Community Service, College Students Helping America, 2006)
  •  The Gender Equality Paradox proves that this is not socially enforced but rather because the minds of boys and girls are different it is natural for girls and boys to have separate interests and abilities.

Do girls really have it all worse than boys?

sosungalittleclodofclay:  harlequinhatter:  roughstar:  sleepsolatecuzivegotsomanydreams:  ohioisloko:  thedailysadclub:  maggie00love:  Boys hurt too  i am absolutely terrified and horrified by this  that’s because with boys a chemical is released in their brain when they make the decision and boys are more likely to hang or shoot themselves, so it always gets done first try. Meanwhile, girls tend to cut and mostly take pills, a method easier to mess up and easier to be saved, thus more attempts and less effect.  Yeah, but boys hurt too  Also boys are a lot less likely to chicken outStatistics say that more males go through with suicide attempts than females  You know how radfems get mad when guys “hijack a post” Welp.  "released a chemical in the brain" no. androgens mask ‘classic’ depression symptoms, which leads to signs known as “male pattern” depression Male pattern depression can include signs seen infrequently in women: Lower stress threshold Aggressive behavior or difficulty controlling impulses Irritability, restlessness, dissatisfaction Anxiety, especially in the morning Alcohol abuse or illegal drug use Excessive exercise or work Hyperactive behavior Eating too little or too much Antisocial behavior and/or pushing or testing social norms  This, by the by, is the cause of ‘the depression gap’. There actually aren’t more depressed women than men, it’s just that in men it presents as other disorders. the other problem men and boys aren’t given the mental skills to impart their needs, let alone expect them to be met. It would help if people started giving a shit.

You know, feminists claim to be helping men too, but when men feel that their issues are still not being adequately addressed and form their own groups like the MRM (which no, I’m not a part of), feminists do this to try to shut it down.

What else has feminism done?

And here’s my final beef with feminism: If you have to spread lies to support your cause, how much of a cause could you possibly have to begin with?  And what are you saying about femininity itself when you want so badly for us to live in constant fear? (#YesAllWomen)

How are you supposed to be encouraging women to be strong if all you let them aspire to is victims?

How are you encouraging women to be independent if you try to make them believe that they can’t take care of themselves?

How are you helping women at all if you have to lie to them?







Feminism is operating under too many problematic ideas, lies, and cover ups. Third wave feminism is ridiculous. It’s gotten too extreme and completely misses the point of equality now. I believe in equality, and for that reason I can no longer get behind an ideological movement like feminism. I just hope the new generation of Feminists can escape their own indoctrination, and let this mutated movement die. 

Why am I not a Feminist?

Objectification and Second Wave Feminism?

Hello any readers bored enough to visit this desert of a “blog”. Today I would like to voice my opinions on something that has certainly become central to the justification of neo-feminism. This is, of course, female objectification in all forms of media (excluding games, that is for another day).

I constantly hear that this so called “objectification” is evidence that there is a great patriarchy, demeaning women to the role of only sex objects, so men can control them and therefore rule the world. Well unfortunately this is simply not the case, and the real beginnings of this female nudity craze in our media was actually, Feminism. Well. Second Wave Feminism to be more specific, do not throw your phone/tablet/laptop across the room yet, let me explain.

During the first “wave” of feminism, the main focus of the movement was gaining legal rights for all women, most notably the right to vote. But equally as important, the legal equality between a married man and women, in which the female partner is not property, but rather an equal, marital companion. As can be imagined, this was a slow and arduous process, and unfortunately still perpetuated the idea that women should stay at home, clean and manage the house, and raise the children, instead of working and advancing their own careers.

By the 1960’s, Second Wave Feminism appeared, and it was in these years that women began to combat the stigma around motherhood. Women discussed the role of women in a family, and in society. One thing that was discussed a great deal was the female body, and the restrictions placed upon it. At that time in the United States, there were laws regulating things such as women’s skirt length and how much skin they were allowed to show in public. These “modesty” laws are easily comparable to “traditions” among Muslim Majority countries, like the Burqa. As you can imagine the Women of the feminist movement were not all to pleased with being told what they could and could not wear. Bathing suits became skimpier and skimpier, as did women’s casual dress. Women who appeared on television and or in film were not so “modest”. Magazine covers displayed half naked women advertising a whole range of unrelated products, and this was great. This empowerment, this sexual admiration was a huge leap for the women of that time. Women spoke of their own sexuality in a positive way, and so did men. There were no double standards, women could be as free as men now, which the women of the Second Wave loved.

Of course this could not please everyone. As the end of the Second wave drew near, the opinions and ideals of feminists differed from person to person, many women thought the female empowerment movement was fantastic, while others saw it as another slight against the female gender. Feminism, within itself, became more about, “who is right”, than gender equality. Differences in opinions shook the movement from within. Issues like abortion, porn and sexuality, gender-roles, and so on. This is where the true meaning of feminism splintered, hence why today there is a large opposition to mainstream feminism by women who once identified as feminists themselves. This should finally answer the question, “You are a woman, how can you not be a feminist?”.

What to me is most ironic, is that the real affect the “patriarchy” ever had on women’s sexuality was oppressing it, not respecting it. Seriously, is there even a right thing to do here? Should we go back to the modesty laws, of course not. But now neo-feminism is attacking the idea that women have the right to express their sexuality for money, or fame. I do not think that is very “talented” but I respect their right to do so shouldn’t feminists also.

Objectification and Second Wave Feminism?

The Rape Culture?

This is my second post, I do not know why I am writing another, it is not like anyone has even seen let alone acknowledged my first. I guess I just like to vent, as I said before, and get my ideas and opinions somewhere other than my head, it gets awfully confusing sometimes. Anyway, on with the post:

The subject of the “rape culture” has always confused me, the mere suggestion of any type of “culture” to me indicates widely and generally accepted social conduct and a dominant view or opinion of one aspect of our everyday lives, if that makes sense? For example, there could be a “Lazy” culture, where the majority of a set group of people tend to act lazily and not go to work and no exercise etc, and everyone in that group would think how they were acting was fine. In our modern day society I can think of nothing more unacceptable and frowned upon than “rape”; the mere word offends all those who hear it, the committing of this act carries harsh judicial penalties and some even go as far as to assert that the crime of “rape” demands nothing less than the worst the legal system can offer.

The definition of a “rape culture” is as follows:

“Rape culture is a concept that examines a culture in which rape is pervasive and normalized due to societal attitudes about gender and sexuality.

Examples of behaviors commonly associated with rape culture include victim blaming, sexual objectification, trivializing rape, denial of widespread rape, or refusing to acknowledge the harm of certain forms of sexual violence that do not conform to certain stereotypes of stranger or violent rape.”

Firstly, in our culture, the crime of rape is in no way normalized. I think the only example of the concept of rape not being taken with the utmost severity and disdain is in the form of comedy. One article hosted on the website “EliteDaily” claims the normalization of rape is mainly conveyed through rape jokes and humor. This, to me, seems an almost “cop out” like move. In the world of comedy and humor, nothing is off limits. I think Seth Macfarlane said, when discussing his flagship television series “Family Guy”, that he will makes jokes and offend everyone. Black People, white people, homosexuals and transgenders, heterosexuals and women, the point unless everyone can be mocked, then no one can be mocked. No one race, sexuality, nationality or indeed gender can be beyond the reaches of comedy.

To further dispute the claim of “rape” humor indicated the presence of a rape culture, we have to really understand how jokes work. All the wit in the world cannot trump the value of shock and surprise when it comes to a successful joke. When someone dares to go where no one else will, we are so in shock and awe we forget that the joke is offensive and just take it for what it truly is, a joke. Then we laugh and underneath we all still know that racism is wrong, sexism is wrong and rape is definitely wrong. The existence of “rape” humor is proof to me, that our society or “culture” understands the severity of rape and sexism, and that is why we are so shocked, that is why the jokes are so god-damn funny. I do not think censorship is the solution to this so called “rape culture”, when a society groups up and starts telling people, especially comedians, what they can and cannot say. By censoring the jokes made against women or rape, then one is placing women above the rest, beyond the reaches of comedy and humor, which is a clear message of superiority.

Furthermore, there is another form of rape humor that exists in our culture, one that is rarely recognized as “rape jokes”. That is prison rape, the prison population is made up of predominately men, and statistics show that up to 1 in 10 prisoners are subjected to rape whilst incarcerated. I have never heard a self identifying “feminist” complain about thus humor, I have heard many people shamelessly make “dropping the soap jokes” etc to no shock or anger, so clearly this opposition to “rape humor” is not as all inclusive as some claim, but rather just another effort to further superiority of women, over their male counterparts.

Anyway Back to the original definition:

I do not think I need to explain how rape is far from “trivialized” by our society, but I will put it as simply as I can. In the UK, if you are a man, convicted of the intentional rape of a woman, then you can in theory by sentenced to life imprisonment (something I agree with 100%), the crime of murdering another human being carries the same penalty. I struggle to see the trivialization here, in the legal system. Not to mention how society as a whole treats rapists, even just accused rapists. To provide a small anecdote; Luke Harwood, an 18 year old teenager was accused of raping Alice Hall, which turned out to be a false allegation, was brutally murdered and horrifically mutilated by Emma Hall, the sister of the supposed “victim” and 3 of her close friends. Did his crime, which he did not even commit, seem trivialized to you. Even after being acquitted, Luke was still punished for the crime of rape, because it is so frowned upon and resented in our “culture”. I would assert that we live in the furthest thing from a rape culture, where men are guilty when accused, on trial and even when acquitted. It says so much about how society portrays “rapists” that countless men, and boys are beaten and murdered and abused before the verdict is even announced.

Now on to the final point I want to address, “Victim Blaming”. Now I want to start by saying, it is never a woman’s fault if she is raped, it does not matter what she was wearing, how much she has drunk, where she was, the blame falls completely on the rapist and no one else. I can understand the anger directed at those who think otherwise, however, I am sick and tired of this responsibility absolving and victim playing attitude held be a concerning number of people. Let’s be clear, there is a difference between responsibility and blame, and there is a difference between cause and prevention. Let me provide a scenario, if 2 different women are walking home alone after a night out, one has a short skirt and cropped t-shirt, the other wears a tracksuit. One has makeup on and ones does not. Now imagine the short skirted, heavily made up woman also carried pepper spray in her purse, and the other woman did not. Neither of these women are more or less likely to be raped, the description of appearance was just a test, however the woman carrying the mace/pepper spray has an infinitely higher chance of fending off a attempted rape than the other woman, is that not common sense, apparently not. Many a time have I been reprimanded and cursed for daring to suggest this, “it is not a woman’s decision to be raped, teach men not to rape” they all yell at me, I usually end up completely befuddled. Both women in this scenario still remain completely blameless, the only difference is one woman took her safety into her own hands and decided to bring a means to defend herself, the other did not. To me this shows a lack of responsibility, not a attempt to blame a woman for another’s actions. I guess what I am saying is, it is not that women should be prepared to defend themselves, but that they could be.

If my house was robbed, imagine two unarmed thieves crept through a window I had left open by mistake and began taking my possessions, it would not be my fault that my home was robbed, but I would be partly responsible, and if someone said to me after “why did you leave your window open” I would not be offended, so what is the difference. In life, everyone must take responsibility for their actions, and their mistakes. Now lets identify what constitutes a mistake. If a woman dresses very provocatively and is preceded to be sexually assaulted, could you say she made a mistake and therefore must accept some responsibility, if your answer was yes then you need to rethink your attitudes to women. However, if a women chose to get extremely drunk, then wandered alone down a dark ally way, in a crime ridden neighborhood, I think it would be fair to say that she made a mistake. Now before you get upset understand that responsibility is not synonymous with “blame” and “fault”, but I think absolving yourself of any responsibility is foolish, as doing so could help prevent something like that happening again in the future, and whichever way you look at that is a positive thing.

The Rape Culture?

The Wage Gap?

For as long as remember, essentially the last few years, whenever the topic of feminism and women’s rights has come up in  a conversation or debate the “Wage Gap” has not been far behind it. Recently the issue of the “Wage Gap” has become absolutely central to the idea and motivations of the neo-feminist movement.

What must be made categorically clear is that if we are talking on a global scale, where in many countries women are not even allowed to leave the house, unless supervised by a male relative, then there is a undeniable and unfair gap between the pay of men and women in all ares of work and employment. But when someone does bring up the “Wage Gap” they are usually addressing the supposed gap between the pay of men and women in the more Westernized and modern world, in countries such as the United Kingdom and the United States of America.

I have been pondering the issue of the pay gap for a while now and have yet to come to a conclusive decision on whether or not there is a clear gap in the pay of men and women, the existence of said gap caused solely by gender bias and sexism against women and in favor of men. I have tried countless times to find an answer, every pro is countered by a con, and every con by a pro. There are economic associations on both sides of the debate, university professors, economic researchers and countless of other professionals with more than enough qualifications to shed light on this hot topic. So far in my own personal research I have found more convincing and in depth articles and studies that show there is not a Wage Gap, and others that show that there is a Wage Gap, but the reasons on why it exists are purely socio-economic and economic. But at the same time, many renown and respected people voice their well researched opinions and findings on the topic and claim there IS in fact and sexist Wage Gap that favors men significantly over women.

Another theory to consider, is that there could be a wage gap between men and women, that favors women. Now I agree that does sound crazy, but so does a lot these days so why not. I saw a study that showed on average, young women (16-25) tend to earn more than their male counterparts. And to sort this out now, as I doubt anyone even will read this I will hold off on citations, at least until they are requested. Anyway, as the men and women begin to enter their 30’s, less women continue working and so the gap balances out, and then tips in favor of men over women. I did read a excellent article, the author of which was a transsexual man, in his late 20’s, who had been born a female. It was in his/her early 20’s that he began the long process of becoming a male. And it was after a number of years living as a male, that he realized that his life had been much easier as a female. He talked about this in a number of contexts, but the only relevant anecdote was that he recalled, as a 18 year old female, being paid more by local employers for the sole reason he was a girl. Of course this is really only one example, but everything must be considered.

This is my question to all those who believe that there is a Wage Gap between men and women, the cause of which is sexism and economic mistreatment of women. Does that factor in (take a deep breath) experience, qualifications, overtime, work hours, length of time time spent at their respective employers, maternity leave, what the job actually entails (for example 2 people with the exact same job title might do completely different types of work, entitling one to more pay in some cases), does it deal with incorrect statistics, misrepresentation of facts or data, the actual jobs men and women really do. I have yet to see an article that deals with all these variables in enough detail, and still at the end produce a viable conclusion of a sexist Wage Gap in favor of men against women, so until that happens I am on the fence, but slowly slipping towards all the people who advocate that there is no Wage Gap, rather a Wage Gap “Myth”. 

The most impressive explanations I have seen, have been that once you account for all the other factors that could affect an individual’s wages, the pay disparity between men and women, all but closes up, from the claimed “77 cents to a mans dollar” to more like 98 cents for every dollar a man earns. Now this is still a problem, but of a far less magnitude then the hysteria currently buzzing in the media. Furthermore, in many professions women far out earn men, such as modelling and pornography, but you rarely see the morally righteous “feminists” advocating for equal pay for male porn stars, so by what right do they claim “they strive for equal rights for women and men” I have seen no evidence that feminists truly fight for a equal rights and treatment of men, but I can produce plenty of evidence that it does exist.

This is my first post, I hope no one is offended by what I have written, I just though I would vent what is on my mind, if anyone has any information, data, links to articles or the names of any good books or published articles that tackles this controversial issue, please feel free to message them to me or bring them to my attention some how.

The Wage Gap?